J.S. Life Coach

2010-09-24T14:31:00.000-07:00

"Challenges are what make life interseting; overcoming them is what makes life meaningful."

-- Joshua Marine

2010-08-13T14:14:00.000-07:00

"When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand."

-- Henri Nouwen

When was the last time you tried to be the type of person described above? I have experienced so many individuals who are always wanting, and needing someone or something when they have never been the one needed. If we can constantly and continuously try to be better individuals ourselves and give more than receive the rest will follow. Nothing is owed to us, and not everyone deserves companionship's and relationships that help enrich our lives. However, when we give first and ask to receive later we will find that eventually we won't have to ask anymore.

Each day try to be a better person than the day before. Be productive, offer assistance, have compassion and patience. Let the wonderful things in this world soak in and have appreciation for the small things. Show appreciation and gratitude, and never let life pass by without finding enjoyment in it and in yourself.

Circumstance

2010-07-14T16:37:00.000-07:00

"I believe that we are solely responsible for our choices, and we have to accept the consequences of every deed, word, and thought throughout our lifetime".

Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

The other day I was talking with a girl who did nothing but complain about her life and her circumstances. I listened for about an hour to her "poor me" stories of how life wasn't served on a silver platter for her. I understand the hardships of life and the struggles so many of us go through; none of which are exactly the same. But we all have two choices. We can take life as a challenge, the ups and downs, and make the best of what we are given. Or we can constantly compare to others, always be wanting and never be satisfied. I personally exercise the first choice and I suggest everyone does the same. There will always be someone who has more, or better. Someone who had it easy or someone who maybe did not get what you felt they deserved, (good or bad). We really only have control of our own actions, our own character and our own choices. We have to take responsibility for each and every one of them. I believe if we focus on the consequences of our deeds and words, then perhaps our actions will improve. I live by the golden rule of "do unto others as you would want done unto you". We can not continue to put the blame of our misfortunes and the circumstances of our own actions on anyone but ourselves. Find focus in the good. Live life like it means something. Don't wait around for something to happen either. We get out of life the amount in which we put into it. Give more, ask for less.

What's important

2010-05-10T14:37:00.001-07:00

Focusing on what is important in life for the individual soul will ultimately guide to you to your own happiness. What we put our efforts into; our time and distress, our worries and our love, is the holding cell of our success. Each day, put even the smallest amount of effort into something you really love. It can be a goal, a wish, a person you love, anything you want. Things in life, great things, don't just happen. Only you can make things happen, it all depends on what you put into it. We've all heard the saying "you get out of life what you put into it", and that rings truer that true. Get motivated, find something to KEEP you motivated and change your life one step at a time!

Build your brain

2010-04-14T11:27:00.000-07:00

I've been spending some time here and there trying to build my brain. Either by reading educational books, doing puzzles and exercises, or trying something new and I suggest you all do the same. I have learned that if you do not use it, you will lose it. Your brain is a muscle just like the rest, so work it out! This world would be a better place if we all applied ourselves and tried to get the most out of what we've got. No human will ever reach the brain's full capacity. Everybodys brain is different, and everybody is stupid at something. That is human nature. Try things that are challenging and new, and even difficult. We all have tendencies to settle into fixed behaviors and routines. Exercise your brain and get out of the laziness that feels so comfortable. By doing something as small as challenging your brain you'll be amazed at the difference and opportunities you find at your door.

PERSISTENCE

2010-04-13T18:52:00.000-07:00

Persistence requires a lot of patience. Listen to the cliche, and never give up. No matter how hard things get, no matter how many times people tell you no, if there is something that you really want, do not give up. I know this from experience, and you need to realize that you are the only one in control of your life's' outcome. Yes, there will be obstacles, and there will be struggles, but if you can make the best out of every situation you will never let yourself down. Be persistent! Be strong, and believe in yourself, because until you do, no one else will.

NAPW

2010-03-24T21:03:00.000-07:00

I am recently a new member of the NAPW (The National Association of Professional Women). This is a great accomplishment for me and I am a proud member of this growing and fantastic organization. Please take the time to check out their website and feel free to ask me any questions. It is a great site for networking, help, guidance and endless opportunities. www.NAPW.com .

JENNY SEHENUK, CLC

661-288-7197
JSLIFECOACH@YAHOO.COM

HOW TO STAY MOTIVATED...

2010-03-13T20:28:00.000-08:00

Most of the time for us to reach our goals, attain our accomplishments, or even get through the tedious day to day, we have to STAY MOTIVATED. As easy as that sounds, we all know its not. So many things in life get in our way and hold us back from the finish line. I know that I am guilty of that, so what you need to do is find the fire that will get you started and focus on that. Here are some easy tips to staying motivated...

*Make a list.
As mundane as that may sound, making a list will help simplify what you need to get done. If it's a goal, a list help you plan out steps. Just by being able to cross things off you'll feel some accomplishment and know that you're getting somewhere.

*Set a date.
Setting a date to getting things done helps you to hold yourself accountable. Who better to be motivated for than yourself!

*Cross things off.
Crossing things off your list as you complete them will only make the list smaller! The hidden motivation in simple satisfaction is one of the best ways to stay on track.

*Remind yourself that you may not have another chance.
Do as much as you can with every day that you have, and don't put off for tomorrow. You'll sleep better and you'll feel better.

*Reward yourself.
When you finish something, no matter the size, if it was something that was difficult for you to do, reward yourself. Whether its with time, or a cocktail, or a night out. Just knowing that you'll be congratulating yourself at the end is motivating enough!

Whether you need motivation to finish something, or reach a goal, make more money, clean something you've been dreading, remember the satisfaction of completion and focus on that. Let that be the fire under your a**. Staying motivated is the key to success. Be a stronger person, a focused individual, and let they sky be your limit. You are the only person in control of your success. Let's get motivated!!

Why a Life Coach?

2010-02-16T12:15:00.000-08:00

Why are so many people now using Professional Life Coaches?

When you have a professionally trained Life Coach working with you, you have a trained support coach -- someone who knows what to do, knows how to guide you -- and stays with you, helping you get through the obstacles, and reach your goals. Life Coaches are not therapists, doctors, or psychiatrists. We are trained professionals focused on your personal and professional growth for greater fulfillment. Your Life Coach is a mentor, a guide, and a motivator -- giving you objective feedback, encouragement, and non-stop support. You are not just making yourself accountable, but you become accountable to your Coach as well. Improvements and positive results are guaranteed!

Becky Sehenuk

2010-02-02T21:29:00.001-08:00

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What is a Life Coach?

2010-01-31T12:09:00.001-08:00

More often than not I get the question...what is a Life Coach?
What can a Life Coach do for me?

Ask yourself these questions....

Have you ever felt like there was something you wanted to do, but didn't know where to start or how to get it?
Do you feel that you are not reaching your full potential?
Do you lack motivation?
Is it difficult to finish projects?
Do you struggle with relationships and finding balance?
Are you getting what you really want out of life?
Do you find it hard to find focus and stay on track?

All these questions are what a Life Coach helps you focus on; any aspect of your life that you want to work on or improve. The key to a Life Coach isn't simple answers to a broad range of questions.

As a trained and professional Life Coach, my purpose is to focus completely on YOU and your needs.

* Giving you help indentify what you really want in every important aspect of your life.
* Help and assistence, not just now and then, but week after week.
* Finding your focus and right attitude.
* Taking the right actions to reach your goals
* Tracking your progress and staying motivated along the way.
* We will define, set and track your goals.
* Focus on your attitudes and actions that determine your succes in each area of your life...

- Job & Career
- Personal Growth
- Money and Finances
- Self-Esteem
- Personal Relationships
- Health and Fitness
- Personal Organization
- Quality of Life

I am not only someone to talk to, but someone to help guide you, motivate you, and hold you accountable.

2010-01-09T18:55:00.000-08:00

"ONE MORE DAY"

2009-12-28T12:16:00.000-08:00

"This day, this precious, wonderful gift has been bestowed upon me free
And whatever I choose to do with it remains entirely up to me.

I could squander these given hours, treat each task as if it’s a chore
and mark this day off my calendar like so many times before.

I could overlook the blooming flowers and ignore the sun’s warm light
before it inevitably sets again, turning my gift of day to night.

I could dwell upon mistakes I’ve made and cry regretful tears
and live my life in the shadow of my own anxieties and fears.

Or I could make a resolution, before one more day has passed,
that I shall live it to its fullest, live it...as it if were my last.

Then I shall, as I awaken, relinquish my fret and my sorrow
and accept one more day to love and laugh, with no guarantee of tomorrow.

At night, as I lay down my head only to wake again, I’ll pray,
and if I do, then I’ll thank God for giving me one more day.

---LINDA ELLIS

2009-12-09T10:27:00.000-08:00

Love in literature

2009-12-03T22:22:00.000-08:00

For all of you trying to find love, learn love, or give love, there is a book I highly recommend. We all want to love and be loved, but how can we fully do that if we don't understand it.
I suggest getting "The Five Love Languages", written by Gary Chapman. It's in incredibly easy read. I actually stumbled upon it and I read it a few years ago but I plan on reading it again.
Spread the word...it can't hurt.

If not now, if not today....

2009-12-03T22:05:00.000-08:00

If not now, if not today, then when....

When will you...

Take a risk
Steal an opportunity
Follow your heart
Take a leap of faith
Forgive someone
Stop putting off until tomorrow
Trust yourself
Tell someone how you feel about them
Be vulnerable
Show compassion
Put someone else first

If not now, if not today, then when will you...

Love the small things in life
Cherish what's right under your nose
Let go of a grudge
Put yourself out there, even if it means getting hurt
Be productive
Let yourself feel love; and give it.

Love yourself

2009-12-03T15:46:00.000-08:00

"Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world"

-- Lucille Ball

If you don't love you, then how can you expect anyone else to. Taking pride in oneself makes us stronger, more confident, and more capable. We can not expect to accomplish anything in life if we don't love who we are...

2009-12-02T18:02:00.000-08:00

PRIORITIES

2009-12-01T23:42:00.001-08:00

Why are priorities important? Priorities are a key element to who we are and what defines us. What we prioritize, what we make important, directly reflects who we are and who we want to be. What we focus on; what is most important in our lives, is eventually and without thought, the path we want for ourselves.
The things we can not live without, the people who we need to have in our lives and the morals we hold dear, are the things we should prioritize. If you can focus on and understand what makes you happy; what you just can't see yourself without, then you will be able to put those things first. We all need to learn and understand what is important. Is it family? Career? Love? Friends? Success? When we die what are we left with? No body knows. If we are left with just memories, or the path we've left behind with the people we've encountered, what would you choose? Do you want your memories to be about career or family? Success or love? When we decide to focus on what is truly important in life, we will be able to prioritize what we really want. Once we can decide what means the most we will be able to get what we want, achieve what we hope, and excel at what we love. The human heart and the human drive are what differs us. Make your mark in life. Love like you have lost, dance like no one is looking, and laugh like you never have before.

KEY TO SUCCESSFUL GOAL SETTING...

2009-12-01T08:40:00.000-08:00

An understanding of goals and goal setting is essential to all Life Coaches. The right Life Coach knows the specific goal format when working with each client. The same way doesn't work for everyone but the basic guideline can get anyone on the right track. People who set a broader range of goals do much better than those who only set a couple. Don't set yourself up for failure and remember to hold yourself accountable. I help my clients focus on the 10 following goal areas:

* Lifestyle Goals
* Job, Work, & Career Goals
* Financial Goals
* Time & Personal Organization Goals
* Health & Fitness Goals
* Relationship Goals
* Self-Esteem Goals
* Personal Growth Goals
* Quality of Life Goals
* All & Any Other Goals

If you can focus on certain areas, narrow down what you want to change or accomplish, you'll be one step closer to making it happen. Here are my suggestions for setting successful goals...

* Identify the goal
* Write it down
* Set the date for completion
* List the obstacles to reaching the goal
* Write and date the action steps
* Prioritize your goals
* Review and track your progress on schedule
* Update and goal, date, or action step that isn't working.

Remember goals are meant to be changed. Life happens and we need to always be adjusting to that in order to be successful. By setting goals you are giving yourself a plan. A plan that you outline out and set up for success. don't let yourself fail.

Take Charge

2009-11-30T11:20:00.000-08:00

Be a queen. Dare to be different. Be a pioneer. Be a leader. Be the kind of woman who in the face of adversity will continue to embrace life and walk fearlessly toward the challenge. Take it on! Be a truth seeker and rule your domain, whatever it is--your home, your office, your family--with a loving heart.
Be a queen. Be tender. Continue to give birth to new ideas and rejoice in your womanhood...My prayer is that we will stop wasting time being mundane and mediocre...We are daughters of God--here to teach the world how to love...
It doesn't matter what you've been through, where you come from, who your parents are--nor your social or economic status. None of that matters. What matters is how you choose to love, how you choose to express that love through your work, through your family, through what you have to give to the world...
Be a queen. Own your power and your glory!

-- Oprah Winfrey

2009-11-30T11:12:00.001-08:00

YOU DON'T GET TO CHOOSE HOW YOU'RE GOING TO DIE OR WHEN. YOU CAN ONLY DECIDE HOW YOU'RE GOING TO LIVE.

-- JOAN BAEZ

KEY CONCEPTS

2009-11-23T10:32:00.000-08:00

THE BUILDING BLOCKS FOR PERSONAL GROWTH AND OVERALL SUCCESS....

* SETTING GOALS
* MAKING THE RIGHT CHOICES
* SETTING PRIORITIES
* MANAGING TIME
* CREATING FOCUS
* DEALING WITH PROBLEMS
* CREATING ENTHUSIASM
* LETTING GO OF THE PAST
* SELF BELIEF

Your True Potential

2009-11-13T11:20:00.000-08:00

Even though you were delt a dark hand
The strides you will make are unaniable
your motivation and determination make you unqestionable
Your possibilities and your end are but to grand
Your true potential

Seeing only the bad never seeing it all
Intimidated by everything you never had
Made to fill unequal or limited by statics stated
But a true reality saves us before we fall
Our true potential

Now that our judgement is unclouded
Up we rise like a rose in a cold city
Our greatness shines and we are never to be pitied
Our purpose and future ensure that were never grounded
Finally our true potential

---Domonique Hatton

2009-11-11T11:25:00.000-08:00

WE MUST DELIVER OURSELVES WITH THE HELP OF OUR MINDS... FOR ONE WHO HAS CONQUERED THE MIND, THE MIND IS THE BEST OF FRIENDS; BUT FOR THE ONE WHO HAS FAILED TO DO SO, THE MIND WILL REMAIN THE GREATEST ENEMY.
-- Bhagavad-Gita

REINVENTION

2009-11-04T13:50:00.000-08:00

I’m sure there is something about ourselves we would like to change, or wish we could change; either make different, make better or get rid of. The power to change is within ourselves and it is with the body and mind working together that make this change happen. The motivation to reinvention comes from knowing that you can change whatever you want about yourself. You need to reformat your way of thinking, not just about yourself but how you want others to perceive you. Our minds are the most powerful tools we have and we would not exist without them. So the greatest advantage we have is our ability to change our thoughts and actions, all stemming from our everyday decisions. Pinpoint what you want to change and take action to accomplishing that. Start with your thoughts…change your thoughts, and your body will follow.

2009-10-28T11:49:00.000-07:00

2009-10-16T14:57:00.000-07:00

Goal Setting/Part 2

2009-10-15T13:22:00.000-07:00

Goals are important in everyday life, and hopefully what I wrote before was helpful. Once we realize that with goals, we can ultimately change our lives, we will be able to make them easier. Remember that goals can be changed. They are not set in stone and since we make them, we can change them when necessary. Try not to worry about adjustments. Life happens as does human nature and we have to be able to adapt otherwise we will constantly be discouraged. The deadline (the date) is not the focal point, the objective is. Every goal must be dated in order to ensure commitment and obligation. You can change the date but make it specific! If goals can’t be adjusted, or changed then whoever does not complete those goals, won’t try again. You can’t give up and it’s ok to try at a goal more than once. Try to remember that goals are merely steps to bigger things within your life. No goal is your “last”. Each takes us to where we want to end up. That is why smaller goals are more important, because they get us to the larger ones.
Goals are written statements of the choices we want in our life: where we want to go in life, what we want, where we want to end up and whether or not they will lead us to something bigger. When you break down a goal, focus on the steps you’re going to take to obtain it. Take ACTION! These steps are more important the goal itself and the action you take is what will help you get past the obstacles that are always keeping you from reaching your goal. You need to follow your own steps, that you’ve written and keep track of them. Life is a process and a journey and no one can expect to get from point A to B with one simple action. The really change your life and get what you want you have to keep yourself motivated, and accountable. This is what a Life Coach does for you. So write down your goal, write down what you think could keep you from attaining that goal, then write down how you’re going to overcome those small obstacles. Ultimately you’ll reach what you’re really trying to accomplish.

Goal Setting

2009-09-30T11:17:00.000-07:00

GOAL SETTING…

It’s important in life to SET GOALS. Setting goals, big or small, is the key to success. It is a fact that goal-setting is a skill. It is something you have to learn. A Life Coach helps you to do this, maintain your goal setting and keep you on track.
People who have troubles setting goals have just not learned the skill, and it can be taught. When we understand that goal setting is a skill we will be able to look at it differently. Anyone can learn goal setting, it is just like learning a skill, and sometimes it just takes practice. There are different types of goals; short-term, long-term, passive and active goals.
You need to remember that goals should be written to be changed, and not set in stone. They should not be in the present tense. Small goals are more important than large goals. Big goals are important, however it’s the small steps within those goals that count the most. Look at it this way…the small goals are what gets you there…to the big goals. Small goals are the goals you can reach today, this week, this month, that get you to the goals in the distance.
All goals should be written down; it creates a road map to success. If they are not written down, they are not a goal. They become merely equal to a wish or a dream, a simple thought. Be productive and hold yourself accountable. When writing down goals they should all begin with the word “to”. For example…”to lose 10 pounds”, “to save $50 a week”. Goals are precise targets and it sets up the structure of the goal so it is written properly.. Goals should also be dated. Don’t be afraid to be committed to a date. It puts commitment and obligation on completing that goal. Dates can be changed, but make it specific, an exact date, not just a month or year, don’t be broad.
Goals should be written to be changed, when necessary. Try not to worry about adjustments, life happens and with that we need to be able to make changes. It’s human nature and we live in a world where we can’t always control our situations. The deadline is not the key objective, accomplishment is.
I will continue later with more goal setting tips and tricks. First, get in the habit of setting and writing down your goals. They can be as simple or as complex as you want them to be. Later I’ll teach you how to reach your goals.

Key to a successful day!

2009-09-24T12:08:00.000-07:00

Like most people, not every one of my days starts off great. There are those days when I wonder if I really have woken up on the wrong side of the bed. (What about those of you who only have one side of the bed?) There are easy things we can all do to start our day off right. I’m not talking about eating our Wheaties, or doing a morning workout. The key to a successful day all starts with our attitude. Begin your morning with a good attitude and good things will happen. No matter how tired you may be, or how ugly it is outside, or the reason you’re getting up in the first place, make your own personal decision to have a good day. Before you leave the house remind yourself that today is a new day, you won’t be able to get it back or do it again tomorrow so make it worth it. We waste so much time going through the motions, and our worlds become mundane. Don’t let that happen.
Do something productive, no matter how small the task may be, get something accomplished. Self accomplishment is one of the very few things we have control over. No one in this world is going to do things for you. What I mean by that is, no one will make you successful, no one will make your decisions, it’s all up to you.
Try to make each day a little different, a little special in your own way. Do something you usually don’t do in the morning. Call an old friend and catch up, listen to your favorite song from 5 years ago, read something inspiring, give someone a compliment. Get creative!
When setbacks occur, or when average happenings just don’t happen the way you want them to, embrace it. Don’t let the little things in life derail you or set you back. Make the best out of every situation because every opportunity, every sidestep, is an opportunity to learn and grow (even if it’s only personally known to you).
So what can you do TODAY to make this moment better? How can you make today better than yesterday? Take little steps, little changes to changing your everyday attitude and you will be amazed at how you’ve changed so much more than that.
Remember today only happens once, you will never get it back, you can never get another chance at making today a good day.

2009-08-22T15:59:00.000-07:00

2009-08-05T16:56:00.000-07:00

People get bored with childhood
They rush to grow up
And then long to be children again.
They lose their health to make money
Then lose their money to restore their health
By thinking anxiously about the future
They forget the present
Such that they live in neither the present nor the future
They live as if they will never die
And die as though they had never lived

People must learn….
We cannot make anyone love us
All we can do is let ourselves be loved
It’s not good to compare yourself to others
For we are all different for a reason
We must learn to forgive by practicing forgiveness
We must learn that it only takes a few seconds to open profound wounds in those we love
But it can take many years to heal them
A rich person is not one who has the most
But is one who needs the least
We must learn that there are people who love us dearly
But simply do not yet know how to express or show their feelings
We must realize that two people can look at the same things and see it differently
Understand that it is not enough to just forgive one another,
But we must also forgive ourselves.

2009-06-28T15:35:00.001-07:00

2009-06-14T21:17:00.000-07:00

Throughout your day, amongst all your responsibilities, projects, and activities, it's often difficult to see the big picture in life. It can be incredibly hard to find direction, motivation and self guidance. It's a question that is often daunting to answer on a personal level, but the truely successful overcome all obstacles. I don't know of many who can do it alone. This is were a Life Coach comes in. Someone who can help guide you, not only on a professional level, but on a personal level as well. If you feel frustrated, or lost in any aspect of your life and are constantly asking yourself the same questions and making the same wrong decisions, a Life Coach can help get you back on track. I can help you find more happiness, more success and a greater appreciation of the things you have.

2009-06-14T21:09:00.000-07:00

What could a Life Coach possibly do for you? This is a frequently asked question... but before asking that, have you thought about asking yourself if you are exactly where you want to be in your own life? Have you accomplished what you know you were meant to accomplish? Have you ever felt like there was more you could do with yourself and just didn't know how to go about it? You are the only person in control of your life, and the possibilities are endless. Put yourself back in the drivers' seat and stop letting each day drive you around! Let me help give you the tools to succeed in every aspect of your life.

2009-04-08T14:25:00.000-07:00