"ONE MORE DAY"

"This day, this precious, wonderful gift has been bestowed upon me free
And whatever I choose to do with it remains entirely up to me.

I could squander these given hours, treat each task as if it’s a chore
and mark this day off my calendar like so many times before.

I could overlook the blooming flowers and ignore the sun’s warm light
before it inevitably sets again, turning my gift of day to night.

I could dwell upon mistakes I’ve made and cry regretful tears
and live my life in the shadow of my own anxieties and fears.

Or I could make a resolution, before one more day has passed,
that I shall live it to its fullest, live it...as it if were my last.

Then I shall, as I awaken, relinquish my fret and my sorrow
and accept one more day to love and laugh, with no guarantee of tomorrow.

At night, as I lay down my head only to wake again, I’ll pray,
and if I do, then I’ll thank God for giving me one more day.


---LINDA ELLIS

Love in literature

For all of you trying to find love, learn love, or give love, there is a book I highly recommend. We all want to love and be loved, but how can we fully do that if we don't understand it.
I suggest getting "The Five Love Languages", written by Gary Chapman. It's in incredibly easy read. I actually stumbled upon it and I read it a few years ago but I plan on reading it again.
Spread the word...it can't hurt.

If not now, if not today....

If not now, if not today, then when....

When will you...

Take a risk
Steal an opportunity
Follow your heart
Take a leap of faith
Forgive someone
Stop putting off until tomorrow
Trust yourself
Tell someone how you feel about them
Be vulnerable
Show compassion
Put someone else first

If not now, if not today, then when will you...

Love the small things in life
Cherish what's right under your nose
Let go of a grudge
Put yourself out there, even if it means getting hurt
Be productive
Let yourself feel love; and give it.

Love yourself

"Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world"

-- Lucille Ball

If you don't love you, then how can you expect anyone else to. Taking pride in oneself makes us stronger, more confident, and more capable. We can not expect to accomplish anything in life if we don't love who we are...

PRIORITIES

Why are priorities important? Priorities are a key element to who we are and what defines us. What we prioritize, what we make important, directly reflects who we are and who we want to be. What we focus on; what is most important in our lives, is eventually and without thought, the path we want for ourselves.
The things we can not live without, the people who we need to have in our lives and the morals we hold dear, are the things we should prioritize. If you can focus on and understand what makes you happy; what you just can't see yourself without, then you will be able to put those things first. We all need to learn and understand what is important. Is it family? Career? Love? Friends? Success? When we die what are we left with? No body knows. If we are left with just memories, or the path we've left behind with the people we've encountered, what would you choose? Do you want your memories to be about career or family? Success or love? When we decide to focus on what is truly important in life, we will be able to prioritize what we really want. Once we can decide what means the most we will be able to get what we want, achieve what we hope, and excel at what we love. The human heart and the human drive are what differs us. Make your mark in life. Love like you have lost, dance like no one is looking, and laugh like you never have before.

KEY TO SUCCESSFUL GOAL SETTING...

An understanding of goals and goal setting is essential to all Life Coaches. The right Life Coach knows the specific goal format when working with each client. The same way doesn't work for everyone but the basic guideline can get anyone on the right track. People who set a broader range of goals do much better than those who only set a couple. Don't set yourself up for failure and remember to hold yourself accountable. I help my clients focus on the 10 following goal areas:

* Lifestyle Goals
* Job, Work, & Career Goals
* Financial Goals
* Time & Personal Organization Goals
* Health & Fitness Goals
* Relationship Goals
* Self-Esteem Goals
* Personal Growth Goals
* Quality of Life Goals
* All & Any Other Goals

If you can focus on certain areas, narrow down what you want to change or accomplish, you'll be one step closer to making it happen. Here are my suggestions for setting successful goals...

* Identify the goal
* Write it down
* Set the date for completion
* List the obstacles to reaching the goal
* Write and date the action steps
* Prioritize your goals
* Review and track your progress on schedule
* Update and goal, date, or action step that isn't working.

Remember goals are meant to be changed. Life happens and we need to always be adjusting to that in order to be successful. By setting goals you are giving yourself a plan. A plan that you outline out and set up for success. don't let yourself fail.

Take Charge

Be a queen. Dare to be different. Be a pioneer. Be a leader. Be the kind of woman who in the face of adversity will continue to embrace life and walk fearlessly toward the challenge. Take it on! Be a truth seeker and rule your domain, whatever it is--your home, your office, your family--with a loving heart.
Be a queen. Be tender. Continue to give birth to new ideas and rejoice in your womanhood...My prayer is that we will stop wasting time being mundane and mediocre...We are daughters of God--here to teach the world how to love...
It doesn't matter what you've been through, where you come from, who your parents are--nor your social or economic status. None of that matters. What matters is how you choose to love, how you choose to express that love through your work, through your family, through what you have to give to the world...
Be a queen. Own your power and your glory!

-- Oprah Winfrey

YOU DON'T GET TO CHOOSE HOW YOU'RE GOING TO DIE OR WHEN. YOU CAN ONLY DECIDE HOW YOU'RE GOING TO LIVE.

-- JOAN BAEZ

KEY CONCEPTS

THE BUILDING BLOCKS FOR PERSONAL GROWTH AND OVERALL SUCCESS....

* SETTING GOALS
* MAKING THE RIGHT CHOICES
* SETTING PRIORITIES
* MANAGING TIME
* CREATING FOCUS
* DEALING WITH PROBLEMS
* CREATING ENTHUSIASM
* LETTING GO OF THE PAST
* SELF BELIEF

Your True Potential

Even though you were delt a dark hand
The strides you will make are unaniable
your motivation and determination make you unqestionable
Your possibilities and your end are but to grand
Your true potential

Seeing only the bad never seeing it all
Intimidated by everything you never had
Made to fill unequal or limited by statics stated
But a true reality saves us before we fall
Our true potential

Now that our judgement is unclouded
Up we rise like a rose in a cold city
Our greatness shines and we are never to be pitied
Our purpose and future ensure that were never grounded
Finally our true potential

---Domonique Hatton

WE MUST DELIVER OURSELVES WITH THE HELP OF OUR MINDS... FOR ONE WHO HAS CONQUERED THE MIND, THE MIND IS THE BEST OF FRIENDS; BUT FOR THE ONE WHO HAS FAILED TO DO SO, THE MIND WILL REMAIN THE GREATEST ENEMY.
-- Bhagavad-Gita

REINVENTION

I’m sure there is something about ourselves we would like to change, or wish we could change; either make different, make better or get rid of. The power to change is within ourselves and it is with the body and mind working together that make this change happen. The motivation to reinvention comes from knowing that you can change whatever you want about yourself. You need to reformat your way of thinking, not just about yourself but how you want others to perceive you. Our minds are the most powerful tools we have and we would not exist without them. So the greatest advantage we have is our ability to change our thoughts and actions, all stemming from our everyday decisions. Pinpoint what you want to change and take action to accomplishing that. Start with your thoughts…change your thoughts, and your body will follow.

Goal Setting/Part 2

Goals are important in everyday life, and hopefully what I wrote before was helpful. Once we realize that with goals, we can ultimately change our lives, we will be able to make them easier. Remember that goals can be changed. They are not set in stone and since we make them, we can change them when necessary. Try not to worry about adjustments. Life happens as does human nature and we have to be able to adapt otherwise we will constantly be discouraged. The deadline (the date) is not the focal point, the objective is. Every goal must be dated in order to ensure commitment and obligation. You can change the date but make it specific! If goals can’t be adjusted, or changed then whoever does not complete those goals, won’t try again. You can’t give up and it’s ok to try at a goal more than once. Try to remember that goals are merely steps to bigger things within your life. No goal is your “last”. Each takes us to where we want to end up. That is why smaller goals are more important, because they get us to the larger ones.
Goals are written statements of the choices we want in our life: where we want to go in life, what we want, where we want to end up and whether or not they will lead us to something bigger. When you break down a goal, focus on the steps you’re going to take to obtain it. Take ACTION! These steps are more important the goal itself and the action you take is what will help you get past the obstacles that are always keeping you from reaching your goal. You need to follow your own steps, that you’ve written and keep track of them. Life is a process and a journey and no one can expect to get from point A to B with one simple action. The really change your life and get what you want you have to keep yourself motivated, and accountable. This is what a Life Coach does for you. So write down your goal, write down what you think could keep you from attaining that goal, then write down how you’re going to overcome those small obstacles. Ultimately you’ll reach what you’re really trying to accomplish.

Goal Setting

GOAL SETTING…

It’s important in life to SET GOALS. Setting goals, big or small, is the key to success. It is a fact that goal-setting is a skill. It is something you have to learn. A Life Coach helps you to do this, maintain your goal setting and keep you on track.
People who have troubles setting goals have just not learned the skill, and it can be taught. When we understand that goal setting is a skill we will be able to look at it differently. Anyone can learn goal setting, it is just like learning a skill, and sometimes it just takes practice. There are different types of goals; short-term, long-term, passive and active goals.
You need to remember that goals should be written to be changed, and not set in stone. They should not be in the present tense. Small goals are more important than large goals. Big goals are important, however it’s the small steps within those goals that count the most. Look at it this way…the small goals are what gets you there…to the big goals. Small goals are the goals you can reach today, this week, this month, that get you to the goals in the distance.
All goals should be written down; it creates a road map to success. If they are not written down, they are not a goal. They become merely equal to a wish or a dream, a simple thought. Be productive and hold yourself accountable. When writing down goals they should all begin with the word “to”. For example…”to lose 10 pounds”, “to save $50 a week”. Goals are precise targets and it sets up the structure of the goal so it is written properly.. Goals should also be dated. Don’t be afraid to be committed to a date. It puts commitment and obligation on completing that goal. Dates can be changed, but make it specific, an exact date, not just a month or year, don’t be broad.
Goals should be written to be changed, when necessary. Try not to worry about adjustments, life happens and with that we need to be able to make changes. It’s human nature and we live in a world where we can’t always control our situations. The deadline is not the key objective, accomplishment is.
I will continue later with more goal setting tips and tricks. First, get in the habit of setting and writing down your goals. They can be as simple or as complex as you want them to be. Later I’ll teach you how to reach your goals.

Key to a successful day!

Like most people, not every one of my days starts off great. There are those days when I wonder if I really have woken up on the wrong side of the bed. (What about those of you who only have one side of the bed?) There are easy things we can all do to start our day off right. I’m not talking about eating our Wheaties, or doing a morning workout. The key to a successful day all starts with our attitude. Begin your morning with a good attitude and good things will happen. No matter how tired you may be, or how ugly it is outside, or the reason you’re getting up in the first place, make your own personal decision to have a good day. Before you leave the house remind yourself that today is a new day, you won’t be able to get it back or do it again tomorrow so make it worth it. We waste so much time going through the motions, and our worlds become mundane. Don’t let that happen.
Do something productive, no matter how small the task may be, get something accomplished. Self accomplishment is one of the very few things we have control over. No one in this world is going to do things for you. What I mean by that is, no one will make you successful, no one will make your decisions, it’s all up to you.
Try to make each day a little different, a little special in your own way. Do something you usually don’t do in the morning. Call an old friend and catch up, listen to your favorite song from 5 years ago, read something inspiring, give someone a compliment. Get creative!
When setbacks occur, or when average happenings just don’t happen the way you want them to, embrace it. Don’t let the little things in life derail you or set you back. Make the best out of every situation because every opportunity, every sidestep, is an opportunity to learn and grow (even if it’s only personally known to you).
So what can you do TODAY to make this moment better? How can you make today better than yesterday? Take little steps, little changes to changing your everyday attitude and you will be amazed at how you’ve changed so much more than that.
Remember today only happens once, you will never get it back, you can never get another chance at making today a good day.

People get bored with childhood
They rush to grow up
And then long to be children again.
They lose their health to make money
Then lose their money to restore their health
By thinking anxiously about the future
They forget the present
Such that they live in neither the present nor the future
They live as if they will never die
And die as though they had never lived

People must learn….
We cannot make anyone love us
All we can do is let ourselves be loved
It’s not good to compare yourself to others
For we are all different for a reason
We must learn to forgive by practicing forgiveness
We must learn that it only takes a few seconds to open profound wounds in those we love
But it can take many years to heal them
A rich person is not one who has the most
But is one who needs the least
We must learn that there are people who love us dearly
But simply do not yet know how to express or show their feelings
We must realize that two people can look at the same things and see it differently
Understand that it is not enough to just forgive one another,
But we must also forgive ourselves.

Throughout your day, amongst all your responsibilities, projects, and activities, it's often difficult to see the big picture in life. It can be incredibly hard to find direction, motivation and self guidance. It's a question that is often daunting to answer on a personal level, but the truely successful overcome all obstacles. I don't know of many who can do it alone. This is were a Life Coach comes in. Someone who can help guide you, not only on a professional level, but on a personal level as well. If you feel frustrated, or lost in any aspect of your life and are constantly asking yourself the same questions and making the same wrong decisions, a Life Coach can help get you back on track. I can help you find more happiness, more success and a greater appreciation of the things you have.

What could a Life Coach possibly do for you? This is a frequently asked question... but before asking that, have you thought about asking yourself if you are exactly where you want to be in your own life? Have you accomplished what you know you were meant to accomplish? Have you ever felt like there was more you could do with yourself and just didn't know how to go about it? You are the only person in control of your life, and the possibilities are endless. Put yourself back in the drivers' seat and stop letting each day drive you around! Let me help give you the tools to succeed in every aspect of your life.